Thursday Thoughts: Words of Wisdom for 2013 Guest Post

Last week I read the most beautiful, wise and meaningful article that truly touched me. My friend, Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis, a mom of four girls  writes a monthly column in three Birmingham papers: Village Living, The Hoover Sun,and 280 Living. Her latest column, featured below, was inspired by the untimely deaths last year of two Birmingham moms, both taken by cancer. Kari wrote this piece for her children, and it’s her hope that other parents may be encouraged to leave their children a written legacy as well. I found so much inspiration for myself and my family, after personally coming off a mentally tough 2012 with the loss of my mother. I hope this touches your heart and life as much as it did mine. I am honored that Kari was willing to share her writing and guest post with me. See her blog and more information about her below. Thank you Kari!!

If I Die Young

When it comes to my mortality, my first fear is dying too young. My second fear is dying very old, being the last in my generation to go.

At times I can imagine myself as the great-great grandmother sitting in the corner of the room at Thanksgiving, the one everyone feels obliged to say “Hello” to but whose dementia and hearing loss make it hard to converse. I can imagine staring up into a sea of polite smiles, wondering what the awkward silences mean and wishing I had someone my age who understood me.

Given the choice, I’d rather not get to that point.

When my earthly life will expire is a mystery; it could 60 years or 60 days. Today I’m healthy, so it’s easy to be theoretical. But death can occur in a split-second. It can come in a car wreck, a medical emergency, a fluke event. And while I like to think I’ll have a chance to express parting thoughts, there’s no guarantee. The only guarantee is today.

Today I’m alive and able, and to me that’s reason enough to document life lessons I want my children to embrace after I pass. I’ll be honest: This is hard to think about, even for a writer. I can imagine how daunting the task sounds to a non-writer. However, I think every parent should have a written legacy. Even a letter or collection of stories, advice, or life-changing moments would prove priceless to our family should something happen.

With that said, I’ve compiled some words of wisdom for my children. By sharing them, I hope you’ll consider doing the same.

*Genuine interest in other people will attract you friends quickly.

*Nothing done out of love is a waste. Love’s the best gift you have to offer.

*You’ll spend half your life waiting—waiting for a test result, waiting for a relationship, waiting for a chance—but remember: What happens to you while you’re waiting is often more important than what you’re waiting for.

*The world is full of talent. It’s not a lack of ability holding most people back—it’s attitude.

*People will push you as far as you let them. Set parameters, and learn to say NO.

*Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s okay to be the only person in the room not doing something.

*Be grateful. This alone puts you ahead of the game.

*Character is who you are in the dark. It’s doing right when no one sees. Character enables self-love. Seek it.

*You will make mistakes. You will feel ashamed. You will know the sting of regret. Own your choices and accept your flawed nature, using the past to your advantage. When you learn from mistakes, you wind up in a better place.

*When misfortune strikes, see it as a chapter, not the story of your life. A storm in one chapter can create a rainbow in the next.

*Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is about letting go and releasing anger. Not everyone who wrongs you will ask for forgiveness. Forgive them anyway, and move on.

*Don’t judge. We all need mercy.

*Be real, be authentic, be you. Wear your skin proudly.

*Stay away from toxic people, and don’t enable or justify bad behavior. People must hit rock-bottom alone. You can love someone without them being in your life.

*Find a job that pays the bills. If it’s not your heart’s desire, pursue that on the side. Not all passions immediately churn profits.

*Beware of white liars. Small liars become big liars.

*Trust your gut, and value your loved ones’ opinions. When they all tell you the same thing, it’s time to listen.

*Speak the truth, and deal with the consequences. Sweeping the truth under the rug aggravates it, creating explosions down the road.

*There’s no disgrace in falling down. The only disgrace is not getting up.

*Believe in goodness. Don’t let the bad seeds in your life ruin your hope in mankind.

*Stay close to your siblings. Your sibling relationships will be the longest relationships in your life, so nurture the ties. Should the world desert you, I hope your sisters are your last friends standing.

*Don’t keep score in love. Keeping score is exhausting and fosters competition.

*It’s better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong. If a boy treats you poorly, or puts you on an emotional roller coaster, drop him. A relationship isn’t about you keeping a boy happy. It’s about two people seeking to make each other happy, being better together than apart. (Think of it as synergy, where 1 + 1 = 3.)

*Say what you mean. Don’t expect others to be mind-readers.

*When you’re upset, ask yourself if the issue will matter in one year…five years…twenty years. Chances are it won’t.

*Clean up your own mess. You earned the job.

*Keep God first. He loves you madly and has plans for your future. Problems begin when you drift away from God. A strong prayer life can keep you anchored.

This list is a starting point for me, something I hope to build on. What about you? Are you ready to start? As the saying goes, there’s no time like the present.

 

Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis has a background in PR, writing, and photography. Find her blog at www.karikampakis.com or find her on Facebook and Twitter

10 Best Travel Quotes: Travel Tuesday

As many of you know, I have been doing a good bit of traveling this year to 4 different beaches including Clearwater, Rosemary, 30A, Sandestin as well as Salt Lake City, Park City, Disney World and much more to come. Honestly, traveling does make you richer, smarter and opens you to all that is wonderful in the world. Here are some of the 10 Best Travel Quotes I found via Pinterest (photo above) via Best Life Quotes

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Fitness Friday: Top 10 Fitness Quotes

1. “Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it. Andre Agassi

2. “Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.”  Lance Armstrong

3. “If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.”  Mark Twain 

4. “The only side effect of too much training is that you get into better  There is nothing wrong with that.” Mark Spitz     

5. Just Do it” Nike

6. “I never regret it when I do it. I regret it when I don’t.” Alison Lewis

7. “If you don’t do what’s best for your body, you are the one who comes up on the short end. Dr. J

8. “I’m not out there sweating for 3 hours every day just to find out what it feels to sweat” Michael Jordan

9. “If you train hard, you will not only be hard, but you will be hard to beat” Herschel Walker

10. “I think exercise tests us in so many ways, our skills, our hearts, our ability to bounce back after setbacks. This is the inner beauty of sports and competition, and it can serve us all well as adult athletes.” Peggy Flemming

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